What would you do if a person you trusted entirely, with all your heart, a person whom you thought you understood completely, a person you respected and even admired, turned out, all of a sudden, to be very different? What if he/she proved to be not only a liar, but a fool? What if your discovery was of something terrible that he/she allowed the whole world to see, thinking that it’s okay since he/she was above criticism or reproach? How would you react, what do you think you would you do?
You could lie awake at night, crying, or worse, not being able to cry, just hurting and hurting until the first rays of the sun would come through the window and you would get up and drag yourself to attend to the dark day ahead. You could do it night after night, but that will not help you at all. Would Hillel recommend it? No, he would not. He would tell you that you should not allow your self esteem to die because of the actions of another person. At least that is what I think. What do you think?
What about revenge? Yes, you could do an enormous damage to this person, and for a few moments you will experience relief from the pain he/she caused you. But it won’t last. The joy of revenge is temporary and in the end it brings more pain. Would Hillel advise it? No. His major principle was “Do not unto others what you would not have them do unto you.” That means, in plain language, “Don’t hurt anyone.” So he would fiercely object to revenge. I am sure of that, but I may be wrong. What do you think?
I think he would advise you to get away from the person who hurt you. Take the person out of your life fully, without hesitation, without doubt, without regret. Even if you feel that you can’t, that you are addicted to this person’s company, tear him/her out of your system, cold turkey. Yes, it would be very hard, but I cannot see Hillel recommending any other road. What do you think?
What do you think?